5 Foundations Every Successful Relationship Needs

Foundations are the key to maintaining all the goodness in your relationship. They will determine the quality and success of your relationships years down the track.

The following are foundations that makes relationships flourish;



1.    Laugh together
It is often said that "it is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either". When you laugh with your partner, it shows that you enjoy each others company, feel positive towards one another and actually “like” each other.

 2.   Know each others love language
Love languages are the different ways that we all communicate and understand love. Your love language and that of your partner can be as different as Chinese and English.

Here are the 5 different love languages:

• Words of affirmation
• Quality time
• Receiving gifts
• Acts of service
• Physical touch

We all have one or two major love languages.

• If your love language is physical touch, a kiss will speak louder than 1000 words – but,

• If your love language is words of affirmation, one kind or affirming word will speak louder than 1000 kisses

You might be showing love to your partner in every way that you know how and still, they might be telling you that you don’t love them enough. Well, it’s no secret anymore! You need to learn their love language.

3.   Understand love as an action
Love is understanding how your partner feels loved, and then doing it. People often think that love is a feeling, and that once the feeling disappears – there is little hope for their relationship. Well it’s absolutely not true!
When you choose to love your partner (even if they didn’t do anything to deserve it), you are showing them real love. Love, that is unconditional and that does not rely on them loving you first. So understand love as an action and a choice, and then do it! You will have an incredibly happy and fulfilling relationship because of it.

4.    Don't cross the line

There are certain things that we never want to say or do to our partner. These are things that you would consider “crossing the line”. examples are

• Losing your temper
• Yelling or screaming at your partner
• Saying I hate you
• Saying something unkind to your partner
• Using manipulation to get what you want
• Going to sleep while being angry at your partner
• Not saying sorry when you know you should have
• Getting aggressive towards your partner
• Bringing your partner down because you were angry

If you want a happy and successful relationship, try really hard to not “cross the line”. Your relationship will be so much better off for it and you will stand a better chance at actually “liking each other” years down the track.

5.    Apologize often

Successful relationships rely on us admitting when we are wrong and then moving past it. Apologizing makes the process of moving on 1000% times faster and easier. When we don’t apologize when we know we should, we are being proud. Love is not prideful. To have a successful relationship, apologize often – so that you don’t make the mistake of being proud.